This one’s primarily intended for you solo visionaries out there who have BIG visions inside you but haven’t necessarily found your tribe yet (although quite frankly everything in this post applies to all of us anyway).
Off the back of my recent post “𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙍𝙖𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙄𝙨 𝙆𝙚𝙮 𝙏𝙤 𝙊𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙊𝙪𝙧 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝘾𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣” and with the additional clarity that the lens of self-responsibility provides, let’s now revisit the question of what it takes to come into a collaborative relationship with people we really and truly resonate with.
Because it’s worth remembering that when we gravitate into relationship in these small groups, and we’re playing together toward a shared vision with continuity over time, magic happens.
Nature’s intelligence follows our collective intention and non-linear stuff starts to happen.
To quote Jordan Hall on this one:
“𝘞𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘯𝘰𝘯-𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥, 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺. 𝘖𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯: 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵. 𝘉𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘯𝘰𝘯-𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺. 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘶𝘭𝘵. 𝘐𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘯𝘰𝘯-𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺. 𝘖𝘯𝘭𝘺 “𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴,” 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘧 “𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳-𝘴𝘶𝘣𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴” 𝘤𝘢𝘯.
𝘛𝘰 𝘱𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴. 𝘞𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘦𝘴. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘸𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺 — 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 21𝘴𝘵 𝘊𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.”
Even Jordan, who in my experience of him, is not typically one to speak about the more magical and multi-dimensional aspects of Life, seems to recognise that we can’t approach our visions (which for these purposes I’ll assume are new paradigm innovations that represent a departure from the current paradigm) still thinking linearly.
And for us to think non-linearly, we need other people.
He goes on to say:
“𝘐𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 [𝘸𝘦] 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 — 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘯𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘭𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘴? 𝘖𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘦 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳-𝘴𝘶𝘣𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴?”
[**Incidentally, I love that he’s actually referring to a different timeline here, which is precisely what we’ve been talking about in terms of occupying and embodying the energetic signature of our vision from the 5th Dimensional reality timeline in the article, “𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑽𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝑾𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑼𝒏𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒍 𝑭𝒐𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝑳𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑳𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝑻𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕.”]
“[𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴] ….𝘳𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘶𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘺. 𝘎𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴. 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘤𝘲𝘶𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘴. 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺, 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 — 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴. 𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘺 𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘧𝘧 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵.”
So you see, it’s really just a matter of learning how to get much better at making friends.
Which may sound ridiculous, and you may scoff because you’re connected to so many people already, but if you’re not yet in your collaborative small group (and you want to be), then I’d invite you to stay open to the fact that something isn’t fully aligning for you quite yet.
So, let’s get on with cracking the code on finding your tribe(s).
First, let’s address one of the main crunch points that gets in the way……
From my various conversations this past week a few themes presented themselves (particularly among women, but I don’t imagine it’s exclusive in that regard), that I personally recognised and related to from my own journey, and that it may be helpful to shed some light on here:
(1) For one, it became clear that when we’re operating as individuals (and this is even more pronounced if we’re not geographically rooted in one place) and we don’t yet have the stability of a small group, there can be a tendency to feel attracted to a group, feel initially lit up by that group’s vision and have or express a desire to lean in and contribute;
(2) But if that impulse is coming from a place inside of us that comes from wanting to belong, or wanting to stabilise because of insecurity or scarcity, then more often than not we end up in a place of “doing doing doing” or “producing producing producing” in an effort to prove our worth and demonstrate that we’re a valuable person to keep around (which makes sense from a tribal perspective, because tribes generally fared better in survival terms than loners);
(3) That kind of external validation seeking based on our own failure to: (i) fully accept our innate self-worth and (ii) fully own our perspective in a group, is almost a guaranteed recipe for:
- Feeling under-appreciated and unseen by the people we’re in connection with;
- Giving of ourselves to the point of exhaustion and feeling drained; and
- Feeling resentful when we leave the relationship which then just sets us up for a similar experience the next time around.
If this is what’s happening, then put simply, we’re very likely not bringing our full selves to the table.
Because to feel fully SEEN, we have to be prepared to fully SHOW ourselves.
But oftentimes, we’re too busy trying to “fit in” with someone else’s vision, and we’re not actually expressing our perspective because we’re unsure if it would be welcome, AND/OR at some level outside of our conscious awareness, we’re probably not wanting to rock the boat if it would risk affecting our resources, our living situation or our reputation among our social circles.
And while all that makes sense, each time we succumb to our need to belong, or the pull for social validation, or we stay small because we’re not sure if we’re ready to take a stand for our own vision yet, we’re closing ourselves to infinite possibility, dimming our light and setting ourselves up for another go around on that very same karmic wheel with the next potential small group of people.
Which is fine if you’re into emotional/relational self-flagellation.
But if you’re actually interested in seeing your vision come to fruition, and coming into relationship with people who could support that with longevity over time, then there are better ways to go about it.
And the easiest first step is to………
I mean it.
IT’S TIME TO SHINE, LOVE.
You’re a human beacon, so consider this message to be metaphorically flicking your cosmic switch and
Because it’s time for you to shine out like the lighthouse 🌟 you really are.
Just take a leaf out of Gary’s book (the guy whose rallying people in the video attached to my Facebook post).
He’s got the right idea and is offering a beautiful example and invitation to us all.
Truth be told, you’ve probably been seeing your vision in your mind’s eye forever, and banging on about it to all the people you’re in connection with, but for whatever reason have kept buying into the idea that you don’t have the confidence, stability, clarity or whatever to run with it just yet.
Maybe you’ve even secretly been hoping (at least at some level) that you could observe from the sidelines as other people you’re in connection with eventually brought it to fruition.
If your vision or team or resources aren’t already manifest in your reality right now….
….then this same old waiting game story is an ego trap, and you’re letting your ego get away with it by continuing to choose to play small.
So stop it.
And while I’m sure that all that networking that you’ve been doing has been extremely valuable to flesh out your vision and to build trust and connectivity among a network of people who can ultimately support the proliferation of your vision in some way at some future date…..
……at some point you’re simply going to have to:
🚫STOP playing small
🚫STOP needing approval from other people
🚫STOP needing some condition to be met that you think will make you feel “secure” before you shine; or
🚫STOP running around all over the place trying to find people….
….and start beckoning or beaconing (note that they come from the same root word) to your immediate tribe by becoming a source of Light and inspiration that is sending out a clear signal to them .
A signal carrying your vision and message upon its waves;
A signal that will:
(a) Dᴇᴍᴏɴsᴛʀᴀᴛᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴅᴇʀsʜɪᴘ ᴛᴏ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀs, inspire them and give them a signal that it’s their time to shine too;
(b) Aʟʟᴏᴡ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴠɪsɪᴏɴ ᴛᴏ sᴄᴜʟᴘᴛ ɪᴛsᴇʟꜰ through the art of expression so you can see what it wants to become (which, incidentally, is why any notion of perfectionism is a poor and pointless excuse);
(c) Sᴛʀᴇɴɢᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇᴍᴀɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴠɪsɪᴏɴ from your electromagnetic field as it’s more present in your conscious awareness and in your embodiment; and
(d) Rᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀs ɪɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴛʀɪʙᴇ ᴡʜᴏ ʀᴇsᴏɴᴀᴛᴇ with your content and can then gravitate into relationship with you.
It’s really a no-brainer when you think about it.
Given all the non-linear benefits that become accessible to you, what else could be more valuable use of your time and attention right now than being yourself, expressing yourself, sending out an attractor signal to your tribe and giving them a way to reach back out to you?
It’s free to do, y’know?
And, even if you didn’t have resources before, thanks to COVID many of you have access to unemployment right now anyway.
So, all it really takes is the choice to start.
By expressing it on paper, through a series of podcast conversations, through singing, music, spoken word poetry, on video, or on a canvas, it will literally refine itself, and you, as it’s happening.
It will be sculpted into reality real-time by you putting your attention on it from a space of open-heartedness and devotion.
And since it can be really helpful to have it drawn forth from your being through someone expressing genuine curiosity — which is easy enough over this medium — I’m interested to hear:
What are you seeing?
What are you wanting to create?
How could you articulate it in a way that it can be simply and compellingly conveyed to people?
If you just gave yourself regular windows of time to sit down and express it without any agenda, what might happen?
What if the painful experiences you’ve been drawing in with your attractor field up until now have been (from a lens of radical self-responsibility) because you’ve been out of alignment, trying to cling on to other people in an effort to belong and prove your worth, or hiding and not bringing your expression or perspective to the table?
What if it’s now time for you to let go of those victim stories about your “unfortunate circumstances”, because once you’re in alignment and are no longer shrinking away from expressing your vision anymore, you won’t need to ever scurry for resources again, because they will be barrelling toward you?
What if people love you and what you get excited about but aren’t clear what you’re really envisioning or wanting to create?
What if all the active or passive lamenting around lack of resources, and making half-hearted and ambiguous offers, is well and truly YOU messing with YOUR OWN attractor and resonance field and creating an interference signal for your peeps?
What if all you really need is to be prepared to say what you want directly (with no need for a “because”)?
I’m here to tell you that you’ve got this, Love!
You were born for this sh*t.
You hear me?
So the invitation here is for you to take a step back, clear the decks, stop leaning on other people and/or piggy-backing off other’s work right now, focus on being in connection and in communion with your own vision, and teach it that it can trust that you’re a responsible steward and that you’re devoted to bringing it into form.
And then all that energy and attention that was going into those other relationships or visions can be channeled into shining your beautiful light as a beacon that’s sending out a clear signal to attract your tribe.
Because you know full well that coming together with the right people isn’t about “searching” for them, it’s primarily a resonance and attraction kind of thing, which takes you showing up with consistency and continuity as the beacon that you’re here to be.
SO SHINE YOU BEAUTIFUL BEACON OF LIGHT.
As you can probably tell, I get excited about having 1-on-1 conversations with those of you who have big visions that have the ability to exponentially impact humanity and who simply need support in getting your message out in the world.
So, if you’d like support in sculpting your big vision, clarifying your own expression and your own vessel, through someone being in curiosity and presence with you to receive you as you sculpt, DM me for an exploratory connection call for how I can support you.