If you resonate with the idea that:
1. Life is designed to be ᴄᴏᴏᴘᴇʀᴀᴛɪᴠᴇ ʀᴀᴛʜᴇʀ ᴛʜᴀɴ ᴄᴏᴍᴘᴇᴛɪᴛɪᴠᴇ;
2. Humanity’s future depends on mutually beneficial cooperation at a planetary scale;
3. Our individual and collective success depends on a shift in our way of thinking, from rigid mindsets to valuing multiple perspectives, recognizing our interdependence and common humanity; and
4. The integration of all this comes through collaboration and empathy;
Then as those of us living in a startup context, or a small group of people who are pursuing or generating resources together, experience increasingly complexity and chaos unfolding in the world…..
And traverse through the shadow of chaos transmuting it into the gift of innovation and accessing the innate 𝑣𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑙𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑜𝑟𝑑𝑒𝑟 of it all…..
We will inevitably face the emotional challenges that come with failing until we succeed.
At this point, I would invite you to think of the emotions that those challenges bring up in us, as pockets of potential energy;
Energy that has the potential to be turned into useful (and super environmentally friendly) fuel for your collective endeavor;
Meaning that there is nothing WRONG with those emotions, per se.
It’s really more a matter of how they’re handled.
Because being vulnerable and allowing ourselves to feel them fully and navigate through them;
And coming to an open-hearted space with one another on the other side;
Actually deeply SERVES what you’re creating together because it creates more trust and more stability in your team’s bonds.
According to Daniel Christian Wahl, the integration of all this comes through collaboration and EMPATHY, remember?
Empathy being “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.”
But if the feelings aren’t allowed to surface then that emotion remains unprocessed in the collective field and it acts like a little block of static that interferes with your ability to transmit a coherent signal to each other or outwardly as a group;
So, naturally, if the whole idea is for us to create pockets of coherence amidst the chaos, bringing order to the chaos;
Then those emotions are actually valuable and need space to be moved through in the culture.
But more often than not in startup culture, the team is super focused on what they’re creating and they tend to overlook the emotional or relational health of the participants- typically on the basis that it’s not a valuable use of collective time and attention, or because those needs are assumed to be being met outside of the collective endeavor (in the person’s family or by blowing off steam at the gym).
But if they’re not…..
…..if you don’t have the kind of support structure in place to adequately handle the inevitable pressures
…..if the pressures are left building and festering under the surface, invisibly eroding the emotional and relational health of the participants and the team
…..you’re likely headed for some kind of burn out, break up or break down
…..and the process simply becomes emotionally unsustainable.
Just check out the recent news story on former Silicon Valley CEO of CircleUp, Ryan Caldbeck for a first hand account of how this goes.
But if your business is not emotionally sustainable, then what’s the point?
If you’re going to “succeed” by meeting your targets, getting your innovation to market or making money, but you run yourself to exhaustion to accomplish it, burn out, break up, or break down in the process, then is that really what you want?
Is it really worth it?
Because if that’s how you’re navigating the journey to success, especially if you’ve done it before and you’re pretty good at it, it’s likely you’ll be successful, but you’ll just do the same thing you did before and then each time you start a new business, it’s going to impact every single aspect of your life.
You’re likely to keep having to put yourself, your life, and your relationship with your partner, your kids, your parents, your cofounders and/or your team, back together each time.
So ask yourself:
How consistently are you under pressure?
How relaxed do you feel on a daily basis?
Do you have enough space in your life where you can set that pressure down completely for periods of time in order to be emotionally available for your family or partner?
Are you in a lot of half fights that you haven’t finished with people because you’re too busy?
Do you have the fortitude to make it through the fights?
Because if deep down what your body is wanting is to be more consistently relaxed and to feel a sense of belonging, freedom and acceptance;
Then we’ve been developing ways to support small groups to release and transform the potential energy stored in your triggers to power your vision and attract and deepen with your resonant collaborators to bring your vision to Life.
We do this by up-leveling your approach to relationship and collaboration by learning to navigate your closest relationships differently; embracing the gift in the challenging conversations, working through the places where there’s any conflict (that people tend to avoid), and learning to deepen into greater intimacy and commitment to create the depth of trust that allows for the kind of catalytic collaboration that liberates your creativity and ensures you can get along and get your sh*t done without burning out.
If you’re interested in connecting to learn more, feel free to DM me.