How The Agreements We Make With Others Ripple Through The Many Layers of Reality
The next piece that’s now coming up to be addressed has to do with:
𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒆, 𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒆𝒘-𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒈𝒎 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒔, 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒏𝒈𝒂𝒈𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒏𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔; 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏’𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒐-𝒇𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔, 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒔𝒖𝒑𝒑𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒃𝒖𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒔?
If agreements are such powerful tools for bonding people and parties together, how do you navigate creating an agreement with parties that may be less aligned with your values and vision, but who still play an important part in being able to freely express your gifts and offerings out to the world?
Particularly when we’re looking to explore how goods, services and resources can best flow between the different parties. Some questions that have come up for people already include:
- Do you go with a licensing agreement or a partnership?
- Is there any reason not to just go along with their standard supply contract?
- What if they’re more entrenched in the existing paradigm?
- What are the energetic ramifications of these things?
- Are there any particular questions to ask or things to be aware of so you can incorporate a broader perspective as you’re engaging in the agreement conversation?
** 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 𝐖𝐄 𝐃𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐈𝐍, 𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐒𝐄 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐄: 𝐍𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥 𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲. 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐮𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐮𝐩𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐧𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐲𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧.
Ok, with that said, first off it’s important to recognise that agreements don’t solely exist in the physical realm.
And yes, I’m going to get unapologetically and unashamedly metaphysical on you here.
You may have heard the term “soul contract” or “karmic agreement” before, which whether you’ve given it much attention or not up until now, at least gives you an indication that the notion of agreements existing and stretching into the invisible and etheric realms and planes is not simply a concept that I’m introducing for the first time here.
Non-physical agreements have very likely been part of your/our experience throughout your/our current lifetime and beyond.
For example, when we’re young children and we’re experiencing something painful that we don’t necessarily have the emotional capacity or interpersonal support to process in that moment, it’s not uncommon for us to wish that someone or something would help us and to promise that we’ll be good or do something specific if x, y, or z pain would just go away.
In those moments we’re essentially calling upon a non-physical entity or being for support and making an agreement in exchange for them supporting us to cope with the current situation by mitigating the painful experience.
I’m not going to go into great depth here about non-physical beings and entities and our relationship with them, because it would be all too likely to send us off down a total rabbit hole, so what’s relevant here for our purposes is that the coping mechanism that we may have agreed into at some level then stays with us as we move into adulthood, and can often become the source of considerable tension in our relationships.
This is because the emotion that has been stored in the body from the childhood encounter is being firmly protected by the agreement, so unless or until we are prepared to choose to vulnerably and transparently drop into that emotion and let the pain that the agreement has been protecting move through our body system (thereby rendering the agreement null or no longer valid or required), the agreement still stands and our coping mechanism will be operating outside of our conscious awareness.
[𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚-𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙚, 𝙄 𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙜𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙗𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙬𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙/𝙤𝙧 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙫𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥(𝙨). 𝙎𝙤 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙘𝙤𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙢𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙪𝙥 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 (𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙖𝙥𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙨 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚), 𝙥𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙥𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪].
On top of the agreements that we carry from our own childhoods, we also carry agreements that our families and ancestry have made, within our DNA.
For example, I’ve had personal firsthand experience of an agreement that was binding me relating to my ancestry. It had to do with all of the violent sexual bondage, incarceration, rape and abuse, that my feminine and Jewish lineage had ever experienced.
Somewhere along the line an agreement had been made to not have to feel or face the pain that was stored in the sexual or sacral centre. I experienced a persistent pain in the base of my spine for years that wouldn’t go away, until, a few years ago I committed to revealing and releasing whatever was there.
When I finally accessed the blockage (with the support of a beautiful bodyworker, and a microdose of psychedelics), I surrendered to screaming a full body and fully empowered, “NOOOOOOOO!” and something viscerally popped in the base of my spine, I purged out a bunch of energy and then the pain, tears and distant memories came cascading out of me.
The whole process maybe lasted 20–30mins and immediately afterwards I was enveloped in the arms of the real life unconditionally loving masculine presence of my partner and almost like a deck of cards coming together, I felt the disassociated parts of my entire female lineage reintegrate wholly back into my being.
As bizarre and terrifying as that may sound to some, I know that those of you who resonate with this kind of metaphysical lens on reality, will understand what I’m speaking to and appreciate how it was both a powerfully liberating and exquisitely beautiful experience.
Beyond our family and ancestry, there are also social agreements that exist outside of our conscious awareness by virtue of the culture we exist within. Take religion for example…..Often religion will be interpreted by people as proposing that we’re inherently separate from the Divine; that someone else has a more direct connection to the Divine than we do and we must therefore abdicate our sovereign power to them as an intermediary; that we have to prove ourselves worthy to the Divine for some spiritual reward after death; or that we have to be impoverished to serve the Divine.
These are often widely held and socially validated cultural beliefs that bind us like agreements as we unconsciously live into them and create consistent behavioral grooves that indicate our ongoing “agreement” with them, thereby obscuring our access to the truth of our sovereign divinity and to our inherent personal power.
I share all of this because it’s important to recognise the power of agreements to bond and bind us across the different levels of our being, planes and dimensions of reality. The closer the nature of the agreement between you, the more your fields intersect or overlap, the more you’re opening yourself to the energetic elements that exist within the others’ individual field and group field by way of their attachments and agreements, and the more you’re potentially setting yourself up to have to alchemise to fully embody your vision, given the bonds of attachment that exist between your fields.
As such, you’ll want to be very intentional about what you’re agreeing into in this physical realm, and have awareness of the multi-dimensional, metaphysical, emotional, relational, etheric and energetic ramifications of the relationship that you’re entering.
So, coming back to the questions that are outlined at the beginning of this article:
(1) Dᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ɢᴏ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀ ʟɪᴄᴇɴsɪɴɢ ᴀɢʀᴇᴇᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘᴀʀᴛɴᴇʀsʜɪᴘ?
A licensing agreement basically means that you’re agreeing to use or share IP (or Intellectual Property) for a fee. If you’re a licensor, you’re letting someone use or share your IP in exchange for receiving something, and if you’re a licensee, you’re agreeing to use someone else’s IP in exchange for giving something. This is more of an arm’s length transaction than a “partnership” and therefore requires less alignment in the relationship, because there is a specific piece of property that is being transacted around.
If you don’t know the other party all that well yet, a licensing agreement will create less of an attachment between you which may be preferable until deeper trust, familiarity and alignment are established.
(2) Is ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴀɴʏ ʀᴇᴀsᴏɴ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴊᴜsᴛ ɢᴏ ᴀʟᴏɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ sᴛᴀɴᴅᴀʀᴅ sᴜᴘᴘʟʏ ᴄᴏɴᴛʀᴀᴄᴛ?
Given what I’ve shared, this one is going to be up to you. Particularly see the answer to 5. below.
(3) Wʜᴀᴛ ɪғ ᴛʜᴇ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴘᴀʀᴛʏ ɪs ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴇɴᴛʀᴇɴᴄʜᴇᴅ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ᴘᴀʀᴀᴅɪɢᴍ?
There’s nothing wrong with forming agreements with people and organisations that exist in the current paradigm. Up until now I’ve been talking about how our agreements serve to root, ground and connect us into the current paradigm which is vitally important for bringing the energy of our vision through our bodies and actualizing it into the world here and now.
In fact, I’d say that it’s even incumbent upon us as new paradigm creators to open-heartedly be bridging the worlds through our relationships with others who still operate in the legacy systems.
That said, again, I would refer you to answer 5 below to ensure you’re not binding yourself to those people or organisations in ways that would create an inordinate amount of tension or undue alchemy for you later down the line.
(4) Wʜᴀᴛ ᴀʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇɴᴇʀɢᴇᴛɪᴄ ʀᴀᴍɪғɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴs ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇsᴇ ᴛʜɪɴɢs?
Here I’ll reiterate what I shared above.
“𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑐𝑙𝑜𝑠𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑎𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢, 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑖𝑒𝑙𝑑𝑠 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑜𝑟 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑙𝑎𝑝, 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢’𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑐 𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑠’ 𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑑𝑢𝑎𝑙 𝑓𝑖𝑒𝑙𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑝 𝑓𝑖𝑒𝑙𝑑 𝑏𝑦 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑖𝑟 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑎𝑐ℎ𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢’𝑟𝑒 𝑝𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑠𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑢𝑝 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑎𝑙𝑐ℎ𝑒𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑓𝑢𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑒𝑚𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑣𝑖𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛, 𝑔𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑏𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑎𝑐ℎ𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑖𝑒𝑙𝑑𝑠.”
(5) Aʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴀɴʏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄᴜʟᴀʀ ǫᴜᴇsᴛɪᴏɴs ᴛᴏ ᴀsᴋ ᴏʀ ᴛʜɪɴɢs ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇ ᴏғ sᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ɪɴᴄᴏʀᴘᴏʀᴀᴛᴇ ᴀ ʙʀᴏᴀᴅᴇʀ ᴘᴇʀsᴘᴇᴄᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴀs ʏᴏᴜ’ʀᴇ ᴇɴɢᴀɢɪɴɢ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀɢʀᴇᴇᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴄᴏɴᴠᴇʀsᴀᴛɪᴏɴ?
Since, as we’ve discussed, agreements create bonds of attachment, here are some things you may want to bear in mind:
(A) Be very clear and specific about what the agreement pertains to — ensure it’s limited in time and scope. Make sure dates, deliverable and time-frames are very clear and watch out for scope creep beyond what you’ve agreed and you’re actually wanting in terms of the relationship;
(B) Be particularly diligent to not agree into things that go into perpetuity — that’s literally agreeing to something FOR EVER, which could mean it even stretches throughout your various lifetimes;
(C) Be sure that you’re not being held responsible for the other parties’ infractions — you don’t want to take on responsibility for things you don’t have control over. For example, they may have an indemnity clause that says you won’t hold them as having done harm in any circumstances, so look out for anything like this, because if they don’t fulfill on your agreement, you want to ensure you’re left with some recourse in the relationship — at the very least, that you have an opportunity to talk it through and come to a resolution;
(D) It’s normal for an agreement to defer to an external authority if there’s conflict, and more particularly that’s usually the court system. If you’re invested in your relationship with the other party then I would recommend that the process for any conflict stays within the culture of the relationship, meaning that you agree to talk first, introducing another party (like a coach) if necessary, or if really necessary a mediator is better than court, especially if you can choose the mediator;
(E) You’ll want to ensure that any conditions within the agreement are reasonable and achievable for you, that they align with how you would normally do things so you’re not caught off-guard by having to do something “exceptional”;
(F) Be accountable to what you agree — your signature is your word, which the seal of your bond, so it’s a good idea to put reminders in your calendar about payment and delivery dates that are your responsibility.
Finally, if you’re working towards a big vision that it takes a team to bring to fruition and you’d like to have a conversation about how I can support you in coming into alignment in preparation for your agreement initiation, DM me for an exploratory connection call.