How The Agreements We Make With Others Ripple Through The Many Layers of Reality

Anna Margolis
9 min readMay 15, 2020


The next piece thatโ€™s now coming up to be addressed has to do with:

๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’†, ๐’‚๐’” ๐’๐’†๐’˜-๐’‘๐’‚๐’“๐’‚๐’…๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’Ž ๐’„๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’๐’“๐’”, ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’†๐’๐’ˆ๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’† ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’Š๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’• ๐’Š๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’†๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’• ๐’”๐’‘๐’‚๐’„๐’† ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“ ๐’‘๐’‚๐’“๐’•๐’Š๐’†๐’”; ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’˜๐’‰๐’ ๐’‚๐’“๐’†๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’๐’†๐’„๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’‚๐’“๐’Š๐’๐’š ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’„๐’-๐’‡๐’๐’–๐’๐’…๐’†๐’“๐’”, ๐’๐’Š๐’Œ๐’† ๐’‘๐’๐’•๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’‚๐’ ๐’”๐’–๐’‘๐’‘๐’๐’Š๐’†๐’“๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’–๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’‘๐’‚๐’“๐’•๐’๐’†๐’“๐’”?

If agreements are such powerful tools for bonding people and parties together, how do you navigate creating an agreement with parties that may be less aligned with your values and vision, but who still play an important part in being able to freely express your gifts and offerings out to the world?

Particularly when weโ€™re looking to explore how goods, services and resources can best flow between the different parties. Some questions that have come up for people already include:

- Do you go with a licensing agreement or a partnership?

- Is there any reason not to just go along with their standard supply contract?

- What if theyโ€™re more entrenched in the existing paradigm?

- What are the energetic ramifications of these things?

- Are there any particular questions to ask or things to be aware of so you can incorporate a broader perspective as youโ€™re engaging in the agreement conversation?

** ๐๐„๐…๐Ž๐‘๐„ ๐–๐„ ๐ƒ๐ˆ๐•๐„ ๐ˆ๐, ๐๐‹๐„๐€๐’๐„ ๐๐Ž๐“๐„: ๐๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ซ๐ฏ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ซ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ฅ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ. ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐š๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐ข๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐›๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐ ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฒ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง.

Ok, with that said, first off itโ€™s important to recognise that agreements donโ€™t solely exist in the physical realm.

And yes, Iโ€™m going to get unapologetically and unashamedly metaphysical on you here.

You may have heard the term โ€œsoul contractโ€ or โ€œkarmic agreementโ€ before, which whether youโ€™ve given it much attention or not up until now, at least gives you an indication that the notion of agreements existing and stretching into the invisible and etheric realms and planes is not simply a concept that Iโ€™m introducing for the first time here.

Non-physical agreements have very likely been part of your/our experience throughout your/our current lifetime and beyond.

For example, when weโ€™re young children and weโ€™re experiencing something painful that we donโ€™t necessarily have the emotional capacity or interpersonal support to process in that moment, itโ€™s not uncommon for us to wish that someone or something would help us and to promise that weโ€™ll be good or do something specific if x, y, or z pain would just go away.

In those moments weโ€™re essentially calling upon a non-physical entity or being for support and making an agreement in exchange for them supporting us to cope with the current situation by mitigating the painful experience.

Iโ€™m not going to go into great depth here about non-physical beings and entities and our relationship with them, because it would be all too likely to send us off down a total rabbit hole, so whatโ€™s relevant here for our purposes is that the coping mechanism that we may have agreed into at some level then stays with us as we move into adulthood, and can often become the source of considerable tension in our relationships.

This is because the emotion that has been stored in the body from the childhood encounter is being firmly protected by the agreement, so unless or until we are prepared to choose to vulnerably and transparently drop into that emotion and let the pain that the agreement has been protecting move through our body system (thereby rendering the agreement null or no longer valid or required), the agreement still stands and our coping mechanism will be operating outside of our conscious awareness.

[๐™…๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™จ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ž๐™™๐™š-๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™š, ๐™„ ๐™ง๐™š๐™˜๐™ค๐™œ๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™—๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™ง๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™˜๐™๐™ค๐™ž๐™˜๐™š ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™ก๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™šโ€™๐™ง๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™๐™š๐™ก๐™™ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™/๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™˜๐™š ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™™๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š, ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ซ๐™–๐™ž๐™ก๐™–๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™˜๐™ช๐™ง๐™ง๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ ๐™ง๐™š๐™ก๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ(๐™จ). ๐™Ž๐™ค ๐™ž๐™› ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ชโ€™๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™˜๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™˜๐™๐™ž๐™ก๐™™๐™๐™ค๐™ค๐™™ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™š๐™˜๐™๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ข๐™จ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ช๐™ฅ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก ๐™๐™š๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ (๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ก๐™ก๐™–๐™ฅ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™›๐™–๐™˜๐™š ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™š๐™ข๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ก ๐™š๐™ญ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ง ๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™š), ๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š ๐™ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ, ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™—๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ง๐™š๐™›๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ค ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช].

On top of the agreements that we carry from our own childhoods, we also carry agreements that our families and ancestry have made, within our DNA.

For example, Iโ€™ve had personal firsthand experience of an agreement that was binding me relating to my ancestry. It had to do with all of the violent sexual bondage, incarceration, rape and abuse, that my feminine and Jewish lineage had ever experienced.

Somewhere along the line an agreement had been made to not have to feel or face the pain that was stored in the sexual or sacral centre. I experienced a persistent pain in the base of my spine for years that wouldnโ€™t go away, until, a few years ago I committed to revealing and releasing whatever was there.

When I finally accessed the blockage (with the support of a beautiful bodyworker, and a microdose of psychedelics), I surrendered to screaming a full body and fully empowered, โ€œNOOOOOOOO!โ€ and something viscerally popped in the base of my spine, I purged out a bunch of energy and then the pain, tears and distant memories came cascading out of me.

The whole process maybe lasted 20โ€“30mins and immediately afterwards I was enveloped in the arms of the real life unconditionally loving masculine presence of my partner and almost like a deck of cards coming together, I felt the disassociated parts of my entire female lineage reintegrate wholly back into my being.

As bizarre and terrifying as that may sound to some, I know that those of you who resonate with this kind of metaphysical lens on reality, will understand what Iโ€™m speaking to and appreciate how it was both a powerfully liberating and exquisitely beautiful experience.

Beyond our family and ancestry, there are also social agreements that exist outside of our conscious awareness by virtue of the culture we exist within. Take religion for exampleโ€ฆ..Often religion will be interpreted by people as proposing that weโ€™re inherently separate from the Divine; that someone else has a more direct connection to the Divine than we do and we must therefore abdicate our sovereign power to them as an intermediary; that we have to prove ourselves worthy to the Divine for some spiritual reward after death; or that we have to be impoverished to serve the Divine.

These are often widely held and socially validated cultural beliefs that bind us like agreements as we unconsciously live into them and create consistent behavioral grooves that indicate our ongoing โ€œagreementโ€ with them, thereby obscuring our access to the truth of our sovereign divinity and to our inherent personal power.

I share all of this because itโ€™s important to recognise the power of agreements to bond and bind us across the different levels of our being, planes and dimensions of reality. The closer the nature of the agreement between you, the more your fields intersect or overlap, the more youโ€™re opening yourself to the energetic elements that exist within the othersโ€™ individual field and group field by way of their attachments and agreements, and the more youโ€™re potentially setting yourself up to have to alchemise to fully embody your vision, given the bonds of attachment that exist between your fields.

As such, youโ€™ll want to be very intentional about what youโ€™re agreeing into in this physical realm, and have awareness of the multi-dimensional, metaphysical, emotional, relational, etheric and energetic ramifications of the relationship that youโ€™re entering.

So, coming back to the questions that are outlined at the beginning of this article:

(1) Dแด สแดแดœ ษขแด แดกษชแด›สœ แด€ สŸษชแด„แด‡ษดsษชษดษข แด€ษขส€แด‡แด‡แดแด‡ษดแด› แดส€ แด€ แด˜แด€ส€แด›ษดแด‡ส€sสœษชแด˜?

A licensing agreement basically means that youโ€™re agreeing to use or share IP (or Intellectual Property) for a fee. If youโ€™re a licensor, youโ€™re letting someone use or share your IP in exchange for receiving something, and if youโ€™re a licensee, youโ€™re agreeing to use someone elseโ€™s IP in exchange for giving something. This is more of an armโ€™s length transaction than a โ€œpartnershipโ€ and therefore requires less alignment in the relationship, because there is a specific piece of property that is being transacted around.

If you donโ€™t know the other party all that well yet, a licensing agreement will create less of an attachment between you which may be preferable until deeper trust, familiarity and alignment are established.

(2) Is แด›สœแด‡ส€แด‡ แด€ษดส ส€แด‡แด€sแดษด ษดแดแด› แด›แด แดŠแดœsแด› ษขแด แด€สŸแดษดษข แดกษชแด›สœ แด›สœแด‡ษชส€ sแด›แด€ษดแด…แด€ส€แด… sแดœแด˜แด˜สŸส แด„แดษดแด›ส€แด€แด„แด›?

Given what Iโ€™ve shared, this one is going to be up to you. Particularly see the answer to 5. below.

(3) Wสœแด€แด› ษชา“ แด›สœแด‡ แดแด›สœแด‡ส€ แด˜แด€ส€แด›ส ษชs แดแดส€แด‡ แด‡ษดแด›ส€แด‡ษดแด„สœแด‡แด… ษชษด แด›สœแด‡ แด„แดœส€ส€แด‡ษดแด› แด˜แด€ส€แด€แด…ษชษขแด?

Thereโ€™s nothing wrong with forming agreements with people and organisations that exist in the current paradigm. Up until now Iโ€™ve been talking about how our agreements serve to root, ground and connect us into the current paradigm which is vitally important for bringing the energy of our vision through our bodies and actualizing it into the world here and now.

In fact, Iโ€™d say that itโ€™s even incumbent upon us as new paradigm creators to open-heartedly be bridging the worlds through our relationships with others who still operate in the legacy systems.

That said, again, I would refer you to answer 5 below to ensure youโ€™re not binding yourself to those people or organisations in ways that would create an inordinate amount of tension or undue alchemy for you later down the line.

(4) Wสœแด€แด› แด€ส€แด‡ แด›สœแด‡ แด‡ษดแด‡ส€ษขแด‡แด›ษชแด„ ส€แด€แดษชา“ษชแด„แด€แด›ษชแดษดs แดา“ แด›สœแด‡sแด‡ แด›สœษชษดษขs?

Here Iโ€™ll reiterate what I shared above.

โ€œ๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘”๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘’๐‘š๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘ค๐‘’๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข, ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘“๐‘–๐‘’๐‘™๐‘‘๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘๐‘ก ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘, ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ขโ€™๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘๐‘’๐‘›๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘“ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘’๐‘›๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘’๐‘š๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ โ€™ ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘‘๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘™ ๐‘“๐‘–๐‘’๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘”๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘“๐‘–๐‘’๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘๐‘ฆ ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘–๐‘Ÿ ๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘โ„Ž๐‘š๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘  ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘Ž๐‘”๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘’๐‘š๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘ , ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ขโ€™๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘“ ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘š๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘“๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘’๐‘š๐‘๐‘œ๐‘‘๐‘ฆ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›, ๐‘”๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘  ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘โ„Ž๐‘š๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘ค๐‘’๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘“๐‘–๐‘’๐‘™๐‘‘๐‘ .โ€

(5) Aส€แด‡ แด›สœแด‡ส€แด‡ แด€ษดส แด˜แด€ส€แด›ษชแด„แดœสŸแด€ส€ วซแดœแด‡sแด›ษชแดษดs แด›แด แด€sแด‹ แดส€ แด›สœษชษดษขs แด›แด ส™แด‡ แด€แดกแด€ส€แด‡ แดา“ sแด สแดแดœ แด„แด€ษด ษชษดแด„แดส€แด˜แดส€แด€แด›แด‡ แด€ ส™ส€แดแด€แด…แด‡ส€ แด˜แด‡ส€sแด˜แด‡แด„แด›ษชแด แด‡ แด€s สแดแดœโ€™ส€แด‡ แด‡ษดษขแด€ษขษชษดษข ษชษด แด›สœแด‡ แด€ษขส€แด‡แด‡แดแด‡ษดแด› แด„แดษดแด แด‡ส€sแด€แด›ษชแดษด?

Since, as weโ€™ve discussed, agreements create bonds of attachment, here are some things you may want to bear in mind:

(A) Be very clear and specific about what the agreement pertains to โ€” ensure itโ€™s limited in time and scope. Make sure dates, deliverable and time-frames are very clear and watch out for scope creep beyond what youโ€™ve agreed and youโ€™re actually wanting in terms of the relationship;

(B) Be particularly diligent to not agree into things that go into perpetuity โ€” thatโ€™s literally agreeing to something FOR EVER, which could mean it even stretches throughout your various lifetimes;

(C) Be sure that youโ€™re not being held responsible for the other partiesโ€™ infractions โ€” you donโ€™t want to take on responsibility for things you donโ€™t have control over. For example, they may have an indemnity clause that says you wonโ€™t hold them as having done harm in any circumstances, so look out for anything like this, because if they donโ€™t fulfill on your agreement, you want to ensure youโ€™re left with some recourse in the relationship โ€” at the very least, that you have an opportunity to talk it through and come to a resolution;

(D) Itโ€™s normal for an agreement to defer to an external authority if thereโ€™s conflict, and more particularly thatโ€™s usually the court system. If youโ€™re invested in your relationship with the other party then I would recommend that the process for any conflict stays within the culture of the relationship, meaning that you agree to talk first, introducing another party (like a coach) if necessary, or if really necessary a mediator is better than court, especially if you can choose the mediator;

(E) Youโ€™ll want to ensure that any conditions within the agreement are reasonable and achievable for you, that they align with how you would normally do things so youโ€™re not caught off-guard by having to do something โ€œexceptionalโ€;

(F) Be accountable to what you agree โ€” your signature is your word, which the seal of your bond, so itโ€™s a good idea to put reminders in your calendar about payment and delivery dates that are your responsibility.

Finally, if youโ€™re working towards a big vision that it takes a team to bring to fruition and youโ€™d like to have a conversation about how I can support you in coming into alignment in preparation for your agreement initiation, DM me for an exploratory connection call.



Anna Margolis

As a former lawyer, Anna merges material world memories, tales of transformation and embodied experience in articulating the future of collaboration